一点一滴地调整习气

摘要：生命应充满允许，就是我们应许可、接纳自己习气的反复。这个允许、理解与包容是特别重要的。

知道一件事情该如何处理，如有不当就能马上调整，能做到这样的人十分稀少。大多数人在我执的驱使下，以习惯性作为去应对外境，很难做到如实、灵活地反应与调整。

习气反复和滞留的状态十分普遍，在我们每个人身上都有显现。我们若以包容心和安忍心，一点一点地去处理习气对我们的埋没和蒙蔽，这会是解决烦恼的良好开端。

生命应充满允许，就是我们应许可、接纳自己习气的反复。这个允许、理解与包容是特别重要的。为什么这个地方要反复强调呢？

因为我们心理习惯的特质就是十分容易打结。很多时候我们对自己不包容，对别人就更谈不上包容。不许可，就会排斥，就会责怪自己、责怪他人，感觉自己这个毛病怎么老改不掉呢？一责怪、排斥，就会使这个毛病固化下来。随着这毛病老犯，它就变成了一个解不掉的扣。很多人明知道自己的毛病不易改掉，却越想改它，反而这个东西就越深沉、越顽固。所以，许可一切、理解万岁，是把死结松开的重要方法。

我们的自责以及对他人的责怪，往往是埋在内心深处、不轻易表现出来的，很多时候这个心结会打得很大。由于对自身习气的顽固性没有清晰的认识、缺乏慈悲，我们就会苛责他人、不许他人有习气的表达。如果能对自己多一点包容，允许自己在业习中折腾一下，自然有能力理解、体谅他人。

我们经常会追求完美，因为对自他期待过高而受苦。做一个平平实实的人，保持一个简简单单的状态，不轻视自己，不责怪他人，就会安稳下来。

不轻视、不责怪，是在现实生活中学习调整习气的重大缘起，它使我们在面对习气时，保持了平和、宽松的心态。允许自他随顺因缘来逐步改变，这样我们的生活会在一点一滴的调整中，变得轻松明快、从容自在。

Change our habits: every bit counts

Rare are those who have a good sense of how to do things right and keep adjusting till they do it right. Driven by ego, most of us respond to external environment in their habitual ways rather than adapt themselves to the situation.

Repeating and lingering habits are not at all unfamiliar to any of us.Habits drown and blind us. They have to be dealt with tolerance and inclusiveness, as the first great step towards saving us from troubles.

Life is meant to allow all possibilities and so we must allow and accept the recurrence of our own habits. This very act of allowing, understanding and tolerating carries great importance and deserves constant care. Why?

Because we love to get mentally confused! How can we tolerate others if we are not tolerant towards ourselves. Rejecting comes from forbidding and so does blaming, either on ourselves or on others. We hate the fact that we cannot get rid of our bad habits but we fail to realize that these rejections and blame, in turn, fortify the very habit we strive to change.This haunting habit will thus turn into a knot that is almost impossible to release. Many of us know that bad habits are hard to change so we tell ourselves to work harder on it. But the harder we work on changing those habits, the more persistent they tend to become. Therefore, allowing everything and understanding all is the key to untying the tighening knot of our mind.

The blame we lay on ourselves and others is not readily visible because we tend to keep it deep in our mind. The mind knot thus keeps tightening up. Without compassion or clear knowledge of the persisting nature of our habits, we become judgmental on others and find it hard to allow other people’s habits to surface. Let’s grant ourselves a bit more tolerance, allow ourselves to linger just a little bit in our habits, and we will develop a capacity to understand and empathize with other people.

Trapped by the desire to achieve perfection, we expect too much from ourselves and others, which brings us sufferings. Go and find peace in being plain, staying simple, and refraining from thinking little of yourself or blaming others.

This very act of refraining, which makes us gain a peaceful and relaxing mind when habits occur, this is the critical cause we need to work on in daily life.Let’s allow ourselves and others to accommodate to causes and conditions. We will then find in life more ease, pleasure and peace with every bit of change along the way.

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