【信仰话题系列】清晰生命的主题—信仰的守护（二）

摘要：有信仰的人，他会慈悲于别人，慈悲于自己。守护信仰的人一定调柔、真诚。

跟一些没有信仰的人打交道，指责太多，是非太多，人心就会焦躁不安。控制别人、强制别人、强制自己，这些都太让人不舒服、不舒展、不自然。生命不喜欢这些东西，但是人为什么要那么做呢？没有信仰！

没有信仰的人就是自大的人。控制欲强，指责性强，表达时不指责不会说话，张嘴就是指责。这个问题在我们的个性中，大部分人都有。但我们要警觉这个东西，不警觉、不自觉，就会带来痛苦。

你看现在的社会状态，很多人都生活在崩溃的边缘——家庭之间的关系、朋友之间的关系，很多人际关系都到了边缘。什么叫边缘？自我太大了！你自大，怎么能有个家庭呢？你自大，怎么能有个亲情呢？你自大，怎么能有个社会团体呢？你过分地自大，怎么能有交流呢？没有了。

没有信仰，信仰基础差，调柔的东西就少。有信仰的人，他怎么也会慈悲于别人，慈悲于自己，做事很宽容、调柔。在有宗教教育的国家里，很小的小孩子他们都会祈祷、祝福，相互的见个面会祝福。守护信仰的人一定调柔、真诚。

以前我们不知道生命的主题，没有信仰的训练，大部分人都缺失。那我们要反思了：我们这个生命中，不管是团体、家庭，还是朋友之间，人都很负累，很不舒服，很不愿意交往。因为除了指责还是指责，除了制约还是制约。但人人都向往自由、宽松、尊重。我们自己去了解自己的心，是不是需要尊重，需要宽容，需要支持呢？我们自己需要，为什么不给别人一个宽容呢？把我们自身的心理需要给予别人，那可能就有意义了。

生命的主题，我们要不去观察、不去了解、不去深刻地认知，生命就变得混乱。很多人活一辈子都不知道自己在咋活人，一辈子也不知道自己在表述啥，一辈子一事无成。就像山林里的树木一样，生根、发芽、生长、倒掉、腐烂掉，自生自灭。对社会、对生命没有有价值的东西，对自身也没有有价值的东西，反而制造了很多烦恼，制造了很多负面的累积。累积到最后，就是自作自受。

生命之光～阳光早餐

开明师兄整理于2019年6月

Make clear about the theme of our life — persist in our faith (二)

Dealing with people with no faith may unsettle and frustrate us because they often criticize too much. Acting to control, compel and force others is uncomfortable and constraining for everyone. Nobody enjoys this. Then why, one may ask, do people still do it? Because they have no faith in their heart.

Most people who have no faith are arrogant and manipulative. They often don’t know how to speak without blaming others. We may have this feature in our personality as well. We should be alert about this tendency, otherwise we suffer from it. Nowadays, many people are on the verge of collapsing. Many interpersonal relations among families, friends, relatives are tensed because people’s ego are too full of themselves thus there is no room left for anyone else let alone for communication. Without faith, people are easily agitated.

On the contrary, those who have faith are normally compassionate towards themselves and others and are considerate and gentle while doing things. In countries whose people have religious belief, even kids know how to pray and bless others. People withholding belief in their heart are frequently genuine and gentle.

If, in the past, we lived without a belief or a theme, we have to examine our situation. Nowadays, most people feel burdened, uncomfortable and reluctant to communicate with their friends or family. Their social interaction is tainted with blame and constraints. However, everyone longs for a liberated, relaxed and respectful relationship. We can ask ourselves whether or not we need respect, support and tolerance. If we do, why not be tolerant towards others? It would be meaningful if we did for others what we would like to do for ourselves.

Our life becomes chaotic when we fail to observe, clarify and recognize the theme of life. Many people do not know how to live their life because they don’t know what they are looking for. And in the end nothing is achieved. It is similar to an unnoticed tree in the woods that sprouts, grows, falls and decays somewhere on Earth. Their life has no benefit to society and to other people or even has no benefit for themselves. Actually, quite the opposite, they create and accumulate a lot of sufferings and negative burdens, which eventually, will fire back at themselves.