最充分的准备——力所能及

摘要：做自己能做的，力所能及地辅助、支持大家永远是对称的，不对称是不可能的。

实际人完全可以从从容容地做事，不需要搭架子、勉勉强强地做事。勉强反而给人带来不爽的东西。好比说，你准备十分只用三分，就很爽；但你准备三分，要用十分，就会很别扭。什么事都要有个余地，反而从容。

比如要是出海了，事先得准备好，如果准备不充分，任何一个东西来临——比如不知道航海线、遇到机械故障、面对大风大浪心理准备不够等等的时候，你就感觉到不爽，感觉到受打击了，感觉到迷茫了。

很多人为什么不爽呢？他们预设了很多。好比说，我这样想、那样想的，但到事情来了，不是我想的那样时，心里就会产生不对称。

“我能做些什么”，事先想一想。做自己能做的，力所能及地辅助、支持大家永远是对称的，不对称是不可能的。但是我如果要求、希望什么，那就完了，特别多的不对称就出现了。人最烦恼的就是，我希望环境怎么样、因缘怎么样、我怎么样，有太多的对环境、对他人的预设。这就完了，一个事一个事就会来了，心里就会不爽。

我们来学习智慧者、觉悟者的方法。比如他们“以什么得度，我现什么身”的这个点就特别简单。你不需要，我就不做；你需要了，我力所能及地帮助与支持。这就没有理由不对称。不管你怎么与我打交道，都令你发菩提心。怎么会不对称？用一个简单的点对付所有复杂的东西，事情就完全简单化了。

一简单，整个身心是放松的，不可能不对称。我能做，我就做；我不能做，我就不做了。这个地方一点勉强都没有。不然，总有勉强的东西、强制的东西、要求的东西。

智慧者与觉悟者真对任何人都不要求，他们所有的愿都不要求你什么。世间人是“我残缺、我贪着、我迷失、我要求、我对抗”，要求你这样、你那样。世间人与觉悟者的差异一下子就找到了。

学习、实践智慧者和觉悟者的发心与作为，不为己求，只需要为别人做一些力所能及的事情，就是最充分的准备，其他东西都不管了！太简单了这个！而且永远对称！烦恼的支撑点就会消失！

Our best preparation – do what we can

We all can have an easy time and avoid doing things with reluctance. Our reluctance will only make us uneasy. For instance, we will feel good when we can get things done with only 30% of the efforts we made in preparation, but we will not feel good if we are only 30% prepared for something that we end up exerting 100% of our efforts. Let us always remember to give ourselves an easy time by leaving room for manoeuver.

Imagine we are about to sail the sea. We must be well prepared, lest we get in trouble, feel stressed or lost when we come across odd situations such as uncertainty about the course ahead, mechanical breakdown, or distressful extreme weather conditions.

Why do so many of us do not feel OK? We anticipate too much; we want things to happen only in certain ways. So when things do not happen exactly the way we anticipated, a feeling of mismatch arises in our mind.

“What can I do now?” Think about this first. Do what we can; Help and support others in every way we can – once we do these, we will always end up with a good match and not with a single mismatch. Yet, if we demand a certain outcome or anticipate it, then we are sure to be overwhelmed with mismatches. Our main trouble comes from the fact that we have fixed expectations for our surroundings or conditions and for ourselves. We have too many hopes for our living environment and for others. We are then giving way to endless troubles and we never feel OK.

Let us seek ways from the wise and the enlightened. “If a being can be saved in certain form of life, I will manifest in that form and teach him the Dharma” is a simple method: I won’t do what does not need to be done for your sake; I will provide help and support that I am capable of only when you need them. Then there will be no reason for any mismatch to take place. No matter how you deal with me, I will let you bring forth the enlightenment-mind (Bodhicitta)”. How can we ever have any mismatch? With this simple solution for all things in their complexity, we shall make things simple.

Once we make things simple, both body and heart will relax and we will never end up with mismatches. I will do what I can and, for those I cannot, I will just leave it. There is not any reluctance there. Otherwise, there will always be reluctance, feelings demanded or forced in our heart.

The wise and the enlightened never demand anything from anyone. None of their vows requires anything from you. “I’m lacking of…, I’m attached to…, I’m lost…, I’m demanding…, I’m opposing…” – an average person always asks you to do one thing or another. This is what sets apart an average person and an enlightened one.

Learn and practice the motivation and actions of the wise and the enlightened. Seek nothing for ourselves. Our best preparations lie in doing what we can for others. Simply ignore the rest. It’s as simple as that. And we shall always end up with good matches. The source of our troubles will disappear.

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