摘要：无论发生什么，学会把自己的心调整得当最重要，回头再来处理事情，那言说作为都会变得积极得当。
如果有事情让你不舒服了，我们第一个应当看的，是自己做得不得当的是什么？哪个地方不得当了？ ——时间、地点、语言，都可能会有不得当的地方。那这个地方是忏悔还是调整？怎么样能去认知它？
首先，要把心理那个“不舒服”的点给击破。先不要在意自己在别人面前表现得好或不好，先解决心中的这个“不舒服”。
我们怎么能把心中这个“不舒服”解决掉呢？ ——礼敬觉悟者，忏悔自己的业障最为简单。觉悟者是我们圆满作为的展示者，他们做事得当、说话得当、思维得当，在礼敬这些觉悟者时，我们会看到自己的不得当，提示自己以后做得得当——思维得当、语言得当、作为得当。
现在做得不得当，实际是因为有不足的地方、观察不到的地方、不合适的地方，那就要忏悔。忏悔可以令我们的心松弛下来，松弛了以后，难受的点就找不到了，下次作为得当的点就容易找到了。
如果别人觉得不舒服，那怎么解决呢？
当别人觉得难以接受，被冲击了，不被尊重了，或者说有压力啊，那我们就多祝福对方，多回向，多给予智慧，多给予慈悲，多给予真诚，让对方在心灵上完全接受真诚的、利益的、非伤害的祝福与供养。心念清晰了，感觉到自他都平衡了，再来调整处理这个事情就容易了。
如果没有清晰简洁的方法作为参照，我们想要把什么都变成积极的东西会很难。凭着自己的性情啊、由着自己的“不舒服”啊，人容易颠覆一切。有了方法，就能认清自己能承受什么、适应什么，不能承受什么、不能适应什么，自己就会有个校正。
无论发生什么，学会把自己的心调整得当最重要，回头再来处理事情，那言说作为都会变得积极得当。
How to adjust things properly?
When we feel uncomfortable with something, we should first look for what we may have done wrong and how so, wrong timing, wrong place or wrong words…How do we deal with these wrongdoings, confess or make an adjustment to them? How do we perceive these misconducts?
Let’s discard people’s judgment about us, no matter good or bad and let us try to solve this displeasure in our mind first.
The simplest way is to pay homage to the enlightened ones and confess our wrongdoings. The enlightened ones are our models of perfection. They appropriately act, speak and think all the time. Therefore, while paying homage to them, recognizing them as a mirror, we can easily see our misconducts. With this understanding, we come to realize that from now on, we should appropriately act, speak and think, just like them.
For our current wrongdoings, we should repent and thereby ease our mind. When there is no more displeased point in our mind，it’s easier for us now to find where we can attain appropriate behavior.
What shall we do if other people feel upset because of our misconducts?
They may feel challenged, disrespected, over pressured, or they may feel reluctant to accept something from us. Let us bless them and dedicate our fortune, wisdom, compassion and sincerity to them, so that they completely accept our sincere, beneficial and harmless blessing and offer. Thus with a clear direction in our minds and feeling no more mutual hostility, it is easy for us to handle the issue.
Without such a clear and simple way as a guide, it’s difficult for us to turn negative things into positive ones, because our temper and discontent may subvert everything. With a proper method, we can clearly understand what we can undertake and adapt to, and what we cannot, and therefore we can make the necessary adjustments.
Whatever happens, if we learn first to adjust our mind appropriately and then deal with the issues, we can act, speak and think accordingly and positively.
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