责任与福慧

摘要：人们往往不在乎责任，又怕担责任。实际责任不是负累的东西，而是福慧最直接的运用与表达。承担责任是一个人成熟的标志和体现，我们在承担责任的过程中福慧也会显现出来。

人生很快，转眼就到了想玩也玩不起的衰老年龄，再想调整的时候，人已经定型，什么也调整不了了。真正了解了这一点，我们大家就要珍惜自己的现行，珍惜自己的感情，尊重自己的责任。我们要学习积极、主动、觉悟地调整生命中的感情与生活，而不是在责任与爱之间去取舍、负累、迷失。

很多人往往不在乎责任，又害怕担责任。我们经常对生命有太多的假设、推测、预算，假设自己的未来，假设自己要去这样那样做，用假设替代了现实中有价值、可以主动作为的东西，浪费了大量的现下的生命，这是一个特别大的问题。

实际责任不是负累的东西，相反，责任具有十分积极、主动作为的特质，是福慧最直接的运用和表达。我们在生活中扮演什么角色，就有什么责任。没有责任的推动，人就成熟不了。例如在家庭中，如果自己还不成熟，还在补缺需要别人照顾，或者一味好玩，就会给自己设置一个没办法去帮助别人的理由，最终我们就没有能力照顾别人。所以只要在面对自己的角色时，能真正承担起相应的责任，直接作为，我们就会迅速成熟起来。好比作丈夫的说：“我是丈夫！”他很快就会成熟；如果总是习惯说“我不行”“我担不了这个责任”，那他一定成熟不了。

了解责任具有主动、积极、具足福慧的内涵，学会以担当责任来代替自己的习惯，人生就成熟起来了。

我们在人世间，要清晰自己做人的本位是什么，因为这个本位的内容就是责任。好比说任命一个职务，任命就是承担责任的过程。至于这个本位的角色扮演得成熟不成熟，在于我们对这个位置的认识，位置认识准确了，就能有承担，福慧就在责任的本位上显现出来。

很多人想要求福求慧，实际上“承担”的福慧是特别不可思议的。什么叫福慧呢？有能力作为某个事情，就是福；自己愿意承担，主动去做，在作为中给自他带来轻安与利益，这种安乐、喜悦的心的作用力就是慧。福慧的特质，就是它带来的不是负累，而是作为所赋予的轻安的利益。

能力上的承担作为与内心世界的喜悦、轻安，这两者都要去实践，两种内容都要建立，这就是“福慧双修”。

Responsibility VS blessedness and wisdom

Life goes by in a blink of an eye. We get older and older and we cannot afford time to play. Before we know it, although we wanted to adjust, we have already been shaped and nothing can be adjusted anymore. If we really understand this point we should cherish our present situation, cherish our feelings and respect our own responsibilities. We should actively and consciously adjust our love life as well, while not choose to be tired or get lost between responsibility and love.

People are often unwilling to take responsibilities, or even are afraid of them.We often have too many assumptions and speculations about our life, imagining our own future, supposing we are going to do this or that. We are wasting a great deal of present life by substituting assumptions for something that is really valuable, that is, we can take initiative, which becomes a big problem.

In fact, responsibilities are not a burden. On the contrary, responsibilities have a quality that allows us to do something actively and they are the direct expression and application of the blessedness and wisdom. The roles we are playing in the life are our responsibilities. Without them, people cannot be mature. For example, in a family, if we are not mature, if we still need to be taken care of or just look for fun, we will give ourselves reasons that we cannot help others, and ultimately, we will lack the ability to take care of others. Therefore, as long as we face up with our own roles and really assume the corresponding responsibility, we will quickly mature. For instance, when a husband says, “I am the husband!” he may soon be mature; while if he always says “I cannot do that” or “I cannot afford this”, then he will never be fully grown up.

When we realize that taking responsibility means action, initiative and is full of blessedness and wisdom, we will learn to assume responsibilities to replace our own habits, which will make us mature.

In this real world, we must find out what our own roles are, which are our responsibilities. Say appointing a position, accepting the appointment is the process of taking responsibility. Whether the person is mature or not depends on his knowledge of what his role is. He may also assume responsibility better if he has clear understanding of roles and at the same time, he will obtain the blessedness and wisdom that the role conveys during this process.

Many people seek blessedness and wisdom. What is blessedness and wisdom then? In fact, the blessing and wisdom of “commitment” is especially unfathomable. Being able to do something is blessing. Being willing to take responsibilities and bringing light, ease or benefits to ourselves and others during the process is wisdom. It is the power manifested by our peaceful and joyful heart. The features of blessedness and wisdom are that they are not a burden, but a benefit of joy and peace brought by our activities.

We should practice both how to commit our responsibility and how to build a joyful and peaceful inner world. We should experience in person the content of both, which is to cultivate both blessings and wisdom.

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