我是正确的，那结果呢？

摘要：真正善良的人，知道一切不可得，会理解与包容。这能让大家的固执与偏执得到休息。

很多时候，就事论事解决不了问题。比方说两个人之间出现了一个问题，就一定要弄出来个对错，否则不罢休。这其实是心理的一种固执、偏执的状态，这种偏执会激化双方的矛盾。

好比说别人对你做了一个错事，你认为你得到了某个优势——我是对的，他人是错的，必须得他人给自己认错才能罢休。这样会带来对立与伤害，小到家庭之间的争吵，大到国家之间的战争都有可能发生。

认为自己是正确的，就是把幻化的事相当真，这会很麻烦。实际真正善良的人，知道一切不可得，就会理解与包容。因为这个能让大家的固执与偏执得到休息。

自是他非是这个时代的共业，不是属于某个人，是大家共有的。我们可以审观回顾一下，是不是这样的？这是社会属性问题。认识清晰这一点很重要，我们就不会把自己的情绪偏执与他人的偏执看得很重，人的心理自然就会宽松下来，坦荡下来。

认识到社会属性人人都有，我们就不会太多地包藏、压抑自己的情绪了。在这样宽松的心态下，我们就有力量去原谅、允许自己与他人的情绪与偏执。依法则来调整、觉悟，让心回归、舒展、自在，远离、超越自是他非。

生命之光~阳光早餐

开明师兄整理于2019年7月

I am right, but what’s the result?

We very often cannot solve a problem by focusing on the problem itself. Let us consider a conflict between two people. They may think they cannot settle their dispute unless they find out who is right and who is wrong. This stubborn state of mind however, may intensify the conflict between the two parties.

When you see someone doing something wrong to you, you may think you’ve got the advantage because “I am right and he is wrong.” Therefore you may demand that this person should apologise to you or else you will not let go of it. This stubborn way of thinking may increase tensions and put everyone in harm’s way, leading to further quarrels among friends or relatives or even triggering wars between countries.

We think we are right because we take this kind of illusion as real, thus causing more problems. A true kind person knows that everything has no essence and can therefore understand and tolerate anyone or anything. This is the way to solve this sort of problem, putting our stubbornness and that of others to rest.

Thinking that we are right while others are wrong is a common problem of our time rather than an individual issue. We can look at ourselves to see if it is true. If we recognise it as such we will cease to take our moods and obsessions or those of others seriously, allowing us to experience a more relaxed, broad and open heart.

Since this is everybody’s issue, we do not have to hide or repress our feelings any longer. Experiencing such a relaxed mindset, we have become powerful enough to forgive and allow others’ emotions and obsessions. We should use the Dharma to be enlightened in these matters and get back to our inherently relaxed and free heart, thereby going beyond those rights and wrongs.