远离攀比之苦

摘要：“如实”很重要，实际就是要了解本位法。

我们生活中常有羡慕他人的东西，比如权力、金钱、能力等。一般我们羡慕的东西是我们自身所缺失的，有缺失就有攀比，攀比就会带来内心的波动与不安——得到了就骄慢，得不到就自卑。它是追逐欲望的一个心理习惯。

攀比让我们不断地受外相的影响，不断地追逐自身缺失的东西。当你拥有一个东西，你又向往寻找另外一个东西，永远没有边际。这个欲望是没办法满足的。那我们能不能有一个自在安稳的守护呢？

首先，“如实”很重要，实际就是要了解本位法。好比说我们在家庭中，是丈夫，是儿子，是妻子，是女儿，各有各的本位职责。在社会交往中，同样大家也有一个对应的角色。就像大家来斐济都会看到他们当地的工人干活，该干什么干什么，一点自卑的东西都没有，很自然。如实安住自己的本位，这样相互攀比的烦恼、习惯就会减少, 并在行为上、心理上也能逐渐安稳下来。

其次，内观是智慧者给予我们的一种训练自心的方法，“观自在”是十分重要的一个解决自身需要、烦恼、习惯的特定的方法。通过内观，了知所有的外境都是缘生缘灭的，都是无有自性的，没有实质的。

一切皆幻化，那么在这样一个空净的世界中我们需要做些什么呢？我们的愿望又是什么呢？清晰了自心的愿望，依这个愿望去作为，我们的人生就会主动起来，我们的心就不会被缘生缘灭的外境所转。

如实安住自己现有的本位角色，智慧观察，清晰自身的需要与愿望，冷静下来就会如实；回归内心的圆满具足，欲望的力量就会减弱，从而可以远离攀比之苦。

生命之光～阳光早餐

开明师兄整理于2018年11月

To stay away from the sufferings of comparison

We often envy what other people possess, such as power, money or talents. Generally, we envy what we actually lack. Defects foster comparison which, themselves, increase desires that result in inner instability. We frequently become complacent if our desires are satisfied, yet feel loss if not. This reflects our habit of pursuing desires.

Comparison makes us easy to be influenced by the external matters. We keep chasing for what we lack. When one desire is satisfied, we crave for another one. Desires are endless. They will never be fully satisfied. Then how can we achieve inner peace and freedom?

First of all, it is important to understand our role truthfully. For instance, each family member has their own role, whether it be husband, wife, son or daughter. In social interactions, everyone has their own role as well. When we are clear with our own position, our comparing habit and resulting sufferings can gradually fade away. As a result, we can become more stable and at ease, physically and mentally.

Then, “Wise-observation” is a method taught by the enlightened ones to help us train our mind. It plays a key role in dealing with our desires, annoyances and habits. Wise-observation enables us to insight into the true nature by understanding that all external phenomena are conditioned arising and ceasing, thus don’t have any essence of their own.

Everything is illusory, so what should we do in this emptiness world? What is our true aspiration? If we are clear with our aspiration and take it as our life direction, our life will become active and never get lost. Because we will no longer influenced by the ever arising and ceasing external phenomena.

If we could assume our actual role, observe wisely and clarify our needs or aspirations, we would be genuine and get back to our inherent perfection and satisfaction. Our desires will lose momentum and we can stay away from the sufferings from comparison.