不再遗憾的感恩

摘要：感恩，就是新的缘起。心念变了——感恩让我们的心不再执着，固化，内心慢慢地就会舒展开来。

任何一个事情的发生，都会让我们的心产生变化，但我们往往不了解自己的心是个什么状态，或者了解了却无法恰当地去运用它。在这种不清晰的心理状态下去处理一个事情，是很难处理得当的。这个不得当就会给我们带来后悔和遗憾，那我们如何让每个事情处理得没有缺失，不留任何遗憾呢？

我们来举个例子，一个人对你好，你会心生欢喜，心生感恩；一个人对你不好，你会不舒服或者生气，自然生不起感恩的。两者一对比，你会发现感恩的心只运用了一半，或者有缺失、不圆满，当事情结束了一定会感到有所遗憾。

我们来分析，当一个人对你不好时，自己内心的心念是生气，这时要想改变别人——要求别人对你好是挺难的。但我们可以回观内心，如果我们的心跟着别人对你的不好而只能去生气，那我们这颗心已经固化了、被动了、被限制了，必定产生苦。认清自心中这颗生气的种子是没有实质的，不制约它也不跟随它，觉悟它是无有实质的，是无有自性的，就可以转化心念。

感恩，就是新的缘起。心念变了——感恩让我们的心不再执着、固化，内心慢慢地就会舒展开来，用这颗感恩的心再看外缘，别人对你的不好已经不受影响了，或者影响力渐渐不像之前那么强烈了。感恩让我们的心不再固化，不再重复受苦，当我们感恩一切时，自己的心就没有缺失，没有遗憾了。因为对境是一切，这样我们就圆满地运用了这颗感恩的心。

观察了这个内心发生变化的整个过程，体会到我们完全可以觉悟一切，感恩一切时，我们就没有缺失与遗憾了。这样清晰观察、抉择了，我们就可以发个愿，去守护它。什么事情来了都可以觉悟它、感恩它——依止着这个究竟不退的愿，作为我们人生的方向，在平时的每个事情上去练习，一点一点地去作为，我们的人生就不会留有遗憾，人生真正的价值就找到了。

～～生命之光阳光早餐

开明师兄整理于2018年8月

Gratitude Leaves No Regrets

Any happenings bring something new to us. We are often not so aware of our state of mind, or we may know it but we do not know exactly how to deal with it. With this unclear state of mind, it will be very difficult for us to respond appropriately, which then brings us regret. How can we deal with anything appropriately, leaving no regrets behind?

Let us look at an example. You will feel joyful and grateful, when someone treats you well. On the other hand, you will feel uncomfortable or resentful, when someone treats you badly. As a result, you fail to appreciate. If you compare these two cases, you will find yourself using only half or part of your ability to appreciate (in one case you appreciate;in the other, you do not). After the occasion is over, you will definitely feel regretful.

When someone treats you badly, you feel resentful. It is hard to change others to be nice to you. However, you can reflect on yourself. That is, if your only choice is to feel resentful when being treated badly, your mind is trapped and restrained. The latter incurs pains. As a matter of fact, the seed of resentment is something with no essence. You may change your state of mind if you try not to contain the resentment or follow it, rather know that it is insubstantial, with no self-nature, thus we can change our mind.

Gratitude is a new start, as your mind will change. It makes you not stubborn or rigid any more; you will get more and more relaxed and open. When you look outside with this gratitude, others treating you badly will not affect you, or it does not matter that much. Being grateful stops you from being rigid and pulls yourself out of recurring pains. When you feel grateful about everything, you will feel completeness not regret. Because you feel grateful about everything, you are making full use of your ability to appreciate.

Observe the whole process of how your heart changes, you will realize that you can comprehend and appreciate everything; you will have no regrets, and you can see clearly and make decisions. Then, you may make a good wish and keep it in your heart. That is, whatever happens, you may comprehend and appreciate it. Follow this wish as your direction in life, practice this on every little matter in life, and you will leave no regrets and find your true values in life.