冷静后的在意

摘要：我们最终面临的都是要解决自己日常生活中的问题与习惯。长久地看、短期地看、热恼地看、冷静地看，多角度地去观察后，再去做事情就会如实下来。

过刺激的生活，能不能安稳？我们需要问问自心。

冷静，长远，跟一时冲动，完全不一样。我们冲动的时候，一时情绪的时候，只会看到大方美好的一面，平静下来的生活细节问题就根本看不见。像喝了酒一样，仗义大方都来了，但在酒醒之后，连最小的事都可能会在意计较。

比如人相处在一起久了，往往就会在意谁多看了谁一眼了，谁对谁好了，谁跟谁打招呼了……这些很小很小的事都会在意计较。

要是一味激情浪漫的生活，就像电影里那样，但当面对现实生活的平淡琐碎时就会感到无味、苦、不安稳，人就会受不了这种落差。

实际我们最终面临的都是要解决自己日常生活中的问题与习惯。长久地看、短期地看、热恼地看、冷静地看，多角度地去观察后，再去做事情就会如实下来。

冷静后的生活会出现一些在意的地方，一定要问问这些在意的地方自己能否面对与承担，那就会给我们带来自觉的机会与利益。

～～生命之光阳光早餐

开明师兄整理于2018年10月

What do we care about when we calm down?

Does living an exciting life bring us peace and stability? This is a question we should always ask ourselves.

Keeping calm with a long-term perspective differs so much from acting impulsively.

When we are emotional, we can only see something great and exciting, but may be blinded to the potential problems after we calm down. It is like that, some people may seem generous when they are drunk yet fuss over trivial things when they are sober.

For instance, when people get along with each other for a while, they might start to care about trifles, which may trigger conflicts, jealousy, or frustration.

If we blindly live a passionate and romantic life just like in the movies, we will not be able to accept the gap when we face the reality, and the life will get boring, painful and unstable.

Eventually, it is all about facing and solving our own problems and habits in our daily life. If we can observe these problems from different perspectives, long-term or short-term, emotionally or calmly, things will be dealt with properly.

When we calm down, we will find the spots that we really are concerned about. We should ask ourselves if we can afford the consequences or not, which leads to self-awareness.