两个人的交流

摘要：对方无论传递给你的是什么，其实只是对方的一种习惯、一个记忆的重复，没有实质。

我们分析一下有无信仰的人的心理背景。有信仰的人做事有次序，对应作不应作非常清晰明了，有守护的底线，有传承体系的支持。没有信仰的人心理缺乏依止，思考言说没有准确的参照，做事无序混乱，容易烦躁迷失。

与没有信仰的人交流，有时候可能会受到减损。其实不是他要减损你，而是他的心理背景造成了减损。但你可以把这个减损接引到本质性空上来，知道任何言说与作为带来的减损只是个表面现象。就好像昨天发生的事情，到今天来看它，就像梦一样，是没有实质的。那么你对这个减损就不会太在意了，反而和对方交流的时候，能给予对方支持和利益。

但是要求和指责要不得，这是个关键点。一旦你要求、指责，对方可能会产生排斥和对抗，真诚交流的机会就没有了。

对方无论传递给你的是什么，其实只是对方的一种习惯、一个记忆的重复，没有实质。力量再大也能消融在本质性空、无一法可得上。

知一切幻，行一切善，就是个娱乐者。娱乐者可以给别人安心，因为你了解人人本来也都可以这么安乐的，只是对方没有找到这个方法。所以可以通过回向、祝福，把这种信仰带来的利益和安乐传递给对方，这样的交流就有意义了。

生命之光～阳光早餐

开明师兄整理于2018年10月

The communication between people with and without faith

When we analyse the mindset of people with faith or without, we notice that people with faith are often orderly and clear about what they should and shouldn’t do. They normally have a baseline in upholding their belief and get supported by the whole dharma lineage system. On the contrary, people without faith don’t have a belief as their reliance within thus usually have no order in doing things. They lack accurate references when making choices, so they easily get upset.

We might be negatively influenced if we interact with people without faith. It is not so much about the people but their mindset, that actually affect us negatively. But if we could see the negative effect from the perspective of emptiness, it would only be an illusory phenomenon, which is like a dream when we look back what happened yesterday. Nothing is left except for the memory. As a result, we will not care too much about what they have done to us. Instead we can benefit and support them every time we communicate with them.

But the key is not to demand or criticize others. Otherwise they may be reluctant to open their heart and we may lose the chance to sincerely communicate with them.

No matter what people deliver to you, it is just his habit or memory repetition void of any substance. Although the habit is powerful, it will eventually dissolve in the emptiness.

By acknowledging the fact that everything is illusory but we still do all good things, we can become an dharma entertainer, who can comfort others. Because we know everyone possesses happiness inherently, though they haven’t found the method yet. So, we can pass on to them our merits and happiness brought by the faith This makes communications meaningful.